What “shadow work” really is. (Calling all wounded warriors.)

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I struggled with the concept of the “shadow self” for so long. The term made me recoil. My interpretation of it: My shadow self was my dark side—my manipulative, arrogant, endlessly needy seductress. Menacing. And she deserved a good talking to.

My beloved psychotherapists and energy workers would point me toward it. “Shadow work. Shadow self.” I wanted to sob and run. Because I felt like I was constantly doing shadow work—intentionally confronting unworthiness and worth, stain and beauty. I had shadow fatigue. En français, that would be “fatigue de l’ombre.” A beautiful way of crying out, “When does the self-critical analysis ever fucking end?”

I can tell you when: When you love your wounds.

And that’s shadow work.

Your shadow is where your wounds hide, waiting for the light of your attention. It’s the stuff beneath the distractions of workaholism and comparison and bravado.
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7 Science-Based Tips to Making it to your 50th Wedding Anniversary

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“When you are courting a nice girl an hour seems like a second. When you sit on a red-hot cinder a second seems like an hour. That’s relativity.” – Albert Einstein
Growing old with the person you love is a dream for most people. It’s a relationship goal you may be hoping to achieve, but let’s state the obvious: it takes a hell of a lot of time and commitment.

I’m sure at this point you have heard a lot of (unsolicited) relationship advice from your friends and family. Perhaps you don’t even know w… Read More

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3 Actions to Beat Your Biggest Distractions

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What’s your biggest distraction? Be honest! For us, there’s no question about it—our biggest distraction is ourselves. Too often, we find ourselves responding to text messages or jumping from one low-priority task to another instead of tackling more demanding work.

Well today, we’re going to show you how to beat distractions and make yourself more productive than ever!

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How to Take Responsibility for Your Life and Change What Isn’t Working

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“The man who complains about the way the ball bounces is likely to be the one who dropped it.” ~Lou Holtz

I spent a devastatingly large part of my life trapped, blaming others for my troubles. I felt like I was bumbling around aimlessly and my life was out of my control.

I was working a soul-sucking job, with a huge amount of student debt. I was surrounded by fake, unsupportive friends, in a toxic relationship, and had extremely low self-esteem.

All of this was everyone else’s fault. I didn’t take responsibility for anything in my life that was causing me pain.

I became a victim, and my sorrowful existence felt like too much to handle.

So I entered a nightmarish tailspin and turned to food, drugs, and alcohol to escape the suffering.

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Life-changing Benefits of Completing Drug Rehab

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Dealing with addiction might seem and feel like an individual problem, but it isn’t. Addiction isn’t something you have to go through alone. Having support from friends, family, and even professionals can really assist in the process of overcoming addiction. And with millions of people suffering from addiction problems in the USA alone, there are plenty of people who could use the help. There are many different addiction recovery steps and things you can do to improve your situation. One of the most helpful and important can be going to drug rehab. Going to rehab will not only put you in a positive environment, but you will also work directly with experienced professionals to help. This will ensure you get exactly what… Read More

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A Stoic’s Key to Living with Presence: Seneca on the Existential Calculus of Saving, Spending, and Wasting Time

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“Lay hold of to-day’s task, and you will not need to depend so much upon to-morrow’s. While we are postponing, life speeds by. Nothing… is ours, except time.”

“How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives,” Annie Dillard wrote in her abiding insistence on choosing presence over productivity. But how do we really spend our days? In our era, the average human lifetime will contain two years of boredom, six months of watching commercials, 67 days of heartbreak, and 14 minutes of pure joy.

This devastating arithmetic of time wasted versus time meaningfully spent may seem like a modern problem, but while the nature of… Read More

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